By: Cristina Martínez
M.B.A, M.S, BCBA, LBA
Coauthor: Ariadna Martin,
MS
The Power of One Word: How 'Wait' Can Teach Patience
If your child struggles with patience, you’re not alone. At our Company, this is one of the most common things we work on with our kiddos. Whether it’s waiting for a snack, a toy, or your attention—it’s hard for young children (especially those with communication challenges) to understand why they can’t have something right now.
The great part is that just like we teach children to follow activity schedules or initiate interactions, we can teach them how to wait—and we do it one small step at a time.
Why Teach Waiting?
When a child learns to wait, they’re not just being patient—they’re building self-control, emotional regulation, and the ability to trust that good things will come, even if not right away. These skills can lead to fewer tantrums, easier transitions, and a smoother day-to-day experience for the whole family.
How We Teach It in ABA
When we introduce the concept of “wait” during therapy sessions, we start super small—sometimes just 1 or 2 seconds! We might say “Wait” in a calm, cheerful voice, show a visual or a timer, and then quickly give the item once that short time has passed.
Over time, we gently increase the waiting time, always making sure the child feels successful and supported. It’s not about testing their limits—it’s about building the skill, little by little.
How You Can Try This at Home
You don’t need special materials to get started. Try this:
When your child asks for a snack, smile and say “Wait,” then count to three and give it. Before turning on a show, say “Wait… almost!” and show them the remote, then press play after a couple of seconds. Use a fun visual timer or even your fingers to count down. And when your child does wait—even for just one second—celebrate it! Offer a big smile, a hug, a high five, or say something encouraging like, “I love how you’re waiting so patiently!” or “Great job waiting! Now we can play outside.” Little moments of praise go a long way in helping them feel proud and confident.
A Few Helpful Tips
- Use the same tone every time. Calm and cheerful is key!
- Model patience yourself. Say things like “I’m waiting my turn” or “I’m being patient.”
- Be consistent. The more your child hears and sees “wait” used in daily life, the faster they’ll start to understand and accept it.
Progress Takes Time
Some days will be easier than others—and that’s okay. Every child learns at their own pace. What matters is that we stay consistent, patient, and encouraging. Waiting may not come naturally at first, but with practice, your child can learn it—and we’re here to help guide you every step of the way. Remember that, sometimes, the most powerful growth starts with just one little word.
